Employing double standards is so common in our daily lives. This human weakness is not only present in our homes, in our personal relationships even with our spouses and children, but also common in politics, social life and present wherever you look.
I just did a quick search in Google News for "double standard" and it displayed 99,000 results. Google News keeps each story in its index (not archive) for 30 days. Thus, it tells me that only in the English language media every day there are 3,300 stories where the phrase double standard is somehow mentioned.
Are you surprised? It was not a surprise to me because because we see how much our lives are filled with deception and lies.
Most people around us call themselves Christians, but living according to the commandments of Christ and remaining in His love shows to be only a Sunday one-hour business. We generally lie and deceive ourselves and people around us during the week to sell something or to get our way.
Yet, we know that employing double standards is a bad thing.
Bur first, let's see how is this defined. May be we will have a clear understanding if we go more deeper into its meaning.
Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines double standard as "a situation in which two people, groups, etc., are treated very differently from each other in a way that is unfair to one of them." In its second meaning of definition it adds: "a set of principles that applies differently and usually more rigorously to one group of people or circumstances than to another."
Urban Dictionary has a similar definition: "When a situation is desireable for one group but deplorable for another."
Why do we act in this manner? Why are we unfair to the others? Don't we know that treating the other unfairly will hit back one day causing suffering to us after we caused someone else to suffer because of our words or action.
Even the Apostle Paul talks about this very issue in his letter to the Romans. Listen what he says in Romans 7:21 "Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me." Then in vs 24 in the same chapter he adds "What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this...?"
Yes. How are we to conquer this disease when even Apostle Paul complains about it. Truly, who will rescue us? Who will rescue you when you know what is right but you do what is wrong. Who will rescue you when you know what shouldn't be done, but your boss tells you to do and if you don't you will lose your job. How do you righteously conquer a situation when there is something you know you shouldn't do, but you do because you want to do it. How do you conquer a situation when you hype a low quality product to sell it, but you know you wouldn't buy it for your children. You know it's wrong, but you still do. Can you rescue yourself and heal yourself from these or similar situations? You think you can, but according to Apostle Paul you cannot and there is only one solution, about which he writes in the same chapter.
In the same 7th chapter in verse 25 he writes. "Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature[d] a slave to the law of sin."
Yes dear friends. It is Jesus who delivers us from being subject to a sinful nature, if he is constantly present in our mind and heart. It is living the life through the Holy Spirit that helps us with HIS help to conquer these tempting situations righteously and live a holy life. The entire chapter 8 in the Letter to the Romans talks about this. I highly recommend to read this chapter.
Alone we can't conquer sin, we learn from these two chapters. With His help we can. This is exactly what Apostle John says in his 1st letter. He makes a very interesting point in 3:9. Listen what he says. "No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God's seed remains in them; they cannot go on sinning, because they have been born of God." He is not only talking about Baptism, but about God's seed remaining in us.
How does God's seed remain in us? It is through love and prayer. Keep in mind the 1st commandment. "Love your God with all you....' Yes the most important word here is "all." If one loves God with all his/her mind, heart and soul he also keeps His commandments. "If you love me, keep my commands. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever - the Spirit of truth..." Jesus says in John 14:15-17.
Constantly remaining in the love of God and keeping His commandments, living a humble life, looking up to Him and not down to others, helps us to become true temples of God where his "seed remains." But in order to love Him, one needs to know Him well. You can't love someone if you don't know that person. In this case, you come to know Him by reading the Holy Bible. Making it the book of your table. And constantly sowing that seed in your mind and heart. Watering that seed and fertilizing the soil through daily heartfelt prayers.
As a result good decision-making becomes easy. With the help of the God's Holy Spirit and His seed in us we can conquer sin and courageously make decisions void of double standards. Then we will be able to seek and live a lifestyle according to our faith. Lifestyle where mind and actions don't conflict with one another. Lifestyle, where double standards have no place. Lifestyle, where consciousness is clean and life is being healed with light and true transparency.
This is the only sure way, proven through the lives of saints, holy people to live a life with no double standards.