Valentine's Day is a time for love and togetherness. Despite that fact, there have been several major Hollywood breakups before the holiday of hearts and flowers. Many everyday couples wonder about the true meaning of love and if they can make it themselves.
Recent Celebrity Breakups
Consider how surprised fans were to hear Heidi Klum and Seal might be divorcing after spending a cozy holiday in Aspen together. This dynamic duo appeared to be happily married since 2005. Often considered an ideal couple, it seems everything is breaking down between them now with a family in the balance.
The SF Gate reports Katy Perry and Russell Brand are headed for divorce just 14 months after tying the knot. On Friday night, Perry made her first appearance in the United States since the news hit the headlines. Perry appeared in Sin City for a fund raising event for GiveLove.org, Patricia Arquette's Haiti charity website.
With short marriages in mind, few people can stop talking about the breakup of Kim Kardashian and Kris Humpries. After a fairy tale wedding with extensive media coverage, the couple broke up just 72 days later.
The notorious breakup of cougar and cub Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher late last year still has everyone talking. Last weekend, Kutcher worked and partied with babes in Brazil while Moore was hospitalized for “exhaustion” and entered a facility to recoup. Despite appearances, a friend proclaimed the situation wasn't all about Ashton and their split.
Moore dropped out of the upcoming porn biopic Lovelace and was replaced by Sarah Jessica Parker. This brings to mind relationships that are working out, such as Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick. Parker and Broderick have been happily married since 1997 and have three children together. Happy couples remind hopeful lovers of Kate Middleton and Prince William, who enjoyed a fairytale wedding last April at Westminster Abbey.
Valentine's Day and the Meaning of Love
As stores continue to advertise Valentine's Day sales on candy, flowers and lingerie, couples are evaluating their own relationships. It takes more than a fancy Valentine's Day dress and romantic dinner to make a marriage work. True love is the cornerstone for successful relationships, leaving many questioning what love is all about.
Medical Daily reported researchers presented their findings about love at an annual meeting of the Society for Personality and Social Psychology (SPSP) from January 26 to January 28. The focus was on the meaning of the words, “I love you.” Studies revealed men are happier than women to hear these three little words. Also, men usually say them first.
Six studies were conducted by Josh Ackerman of the MIT Sloan School of Management. The evolutionary prospective showed when a partner chooses to express love, it depends on their perception of what would protect the relationship as well as the cost-benefit analysis.
Additionally, researchers found men are happier to hear expressions of love prior to sexual intercourse while women are happy to hear “I love you,” afterward.
Ackerman said, “This work shows that our intuitions are not always correct.” He continued, “Love confessions are akin to economic resources that people use to negotiate evolved romantic interests.”
Lisa Diamond of the University of Utah studied the health and well-being of 34 cohabiting couples before, during and after a separation of four to seven days. The researchers discovered the physical separations had negative impacts on levels of positive interactions and sleep as well as increased cortisol levels.
It appeared lengthy phone calls seemed to “stand in” for contact. Diamond indicated, “The findings can contribute to our emerging understanding of the processes through which longstanding romantic ties are beneficial for our health.”
The Changing Face of Marriage
Despite the fact love feels good, fewer people are getting married. At the end of last year, the Washington Post reported just 51 percent of all adults 18 or older are married.
However, in May, 2011, CNN reported the U.S. Census Bureau found divorce rates for most age groups have been dropping about 5 percentage points on average since 1996. This means fewer people are getting married and divorced.
Andrew J. Cherlin, a Johns Hopkins University sociologist who studies families, said people thought you were mentally ill if you weren't married in the 1950s. He indicated, “Marriage was mandatory. Now it is culturally optional.”
Cherlin said the old-style marriage bargain involved the wife staying home “a la 'Father Knows Best.'” He stated that arrangement didn't work so well as women entered the workforce. After a generation, “now the bargain is both spouses work, and they pool their income.”
Economic stability tends to bode well for the future of marriages. Financial problems are the source of many arguments and relationship breakups.
Basically speaking, it seems wise for couples to take care of themselves individually and express love to each other. Sharing time and making an agreement about finances appears to contribute toward better health and longer liasons.
Here is a video from Lisa Oz, wife of Dr. Mehmet Oz and frequent co-host of The Dr. Oz Show, revealing the secret to a successful marriage:
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