Dr. Phil: Women Beware!

You have probably seen or heard of these outfits: they train men how to approach and pick up women. Dr. Phil asked some pointed questions, but he didn’t go far enough in condemning these techniques. In fact, when interviewing two young women on their experience in bars and how they felt about the whole thing, he said:

“Didn’t somebody teach you how to put your makeup on, how to choose clothes, how to conduct yourself as a lady?” Dr. Phil asks. “Somebody invented the push-up bra for a reason.”

Yes, Dr. Phil, somebody did teach us: mass media. Barbie. TV shows. As far as I know, my mother never wore a push-up bra in her life, so it sure wasn’t her. For many years, I stuffed myself into pantyhose, tight dresses, wore high heels and yes, a push-up bra, so that I could conform to the vision of society’s ideal woman. Now I wear casual clothes, a white cotton bra with no underwires, and if I wear a push-up bra, it’s to make a dress or blouse fit properly without it sagging. And frankly, my undergarments are my business.

So by your reasoning, Dr. Phil, if I wear a push-up bra, I am attracting men and being manipulative? That would mean if a man were wearing nice clothes and a tight pair of jeans, he was deliberately being a tease or a come-on artist? Puh-lease! I expect better from you, Dr. Phil. My breasts and my push-up bra do not walk up to men and tell them lies any more than a sock stuffed in a guy’s jeans does the same to me. I can’t believe you picked up on the old saw “she’s wearing something sexy so it must be her fault that I’m attracted to her.”

This show was nothing more than advertisement for these guys. Teaching young men confidence? Teaching men how to treat women as objects and manipulate them like trained dogs is more like it. Whether or not they are successful in these endeavors is not the issue: the issue is that it is carrying on the misconception that women are less intelligent than men, we are vulnerable creatures who need to be protected (by whom? All the “good” men like you, Dr. Phil?).

Relationships should be built on trust. If I found out my husband, who is a hypnotherapist and is trained in NLP, by the way, used hypnotic seduction techniques or NLP on me, I’d be more pissed off than a nest of hornets that somebody’d taken a baseball bat to. And you know hornets can be some mean little sonuvabitches when they are bothered.

This is not some Cyrano de Bergerac method of approaching women. For example, Nick from the Mystery Method responds to Ross Jeffries allegations that Mystery Method uses something called “push-pull,” to throw a woman off balance:

“We absolutely teach push-pull. That’s flirting. If somebody says something that I enjoy, I will reward her for that. If she says something that I don’t enjoy, I’ll let her know about that … If I’m constantly, no matter what she says, loving everything she does, that’s boring.”

Nick, lemme tell you something about women: we do like men who like what we do. My husband loves me the way I am, and as a matter of fact, I don’t find it boring when he expresses his admiration. Have you ever lived with a verbal abuser, Nick? I have: my last longterm relationship was with a man who found it amusing to put me down one minute, then tell me how beautiful I was and how much he loved me the next. By the time I got out of that relationship, my self-esteem was at an all-time low, and I had to go into therapy for being subjected to the little tricks like you mention. Stop it. Stop teaching men that it is “exciting” to women to be insulted. You are a pretentious chauvinist pig. You make money from preying on men’s insecurities with women by teaching them how to prey on women’s insecurities. You should be ashamed of yourself. I have a son and if I ever found out he was doing what you’re doing, he’d get an earful from me too.

Oh and Ross Jeffries? Father of the sleazeballs. He was there for one sole purpose: to advertise his product. He made light of the fact that his advertising includes how to get laid (no censorship here, Dr. Phil, amazing that you can’t say “laid” on TV in this day and age). Jeffries proclaimed it hype and admonished us all not to pay attention to the advertising, it’s just a way to get people to notice his product. Oh, so it’s false advertising then? Which is it Ross, a product teaching men how to get laid using NLP techniques, or an innocent tool that boosts men’s confidence? Guess which one I think it is.

Jeffries also goes on to mention that the women like sex too. Is that like, cows liked to be serviced by bulls? We are there for men’s pleasure only and we like it too. How modern of you, Ross. I am finally allowed to like sex after thousands of years, excluding the Victorian Age, of course. But I can’t choose whom to have sex with, I have to wait for one of your “seduction masters” to approach me? Why not just round us all up and treat us like the women in The Handmaids Tale? And I loved your “I’m so innocent here, it’s all these other guys who are doing the bad stuff” routine. Lies. Total lies. Are you pissed off Ross? Then picture me flipping you the bird and anchor that, you jerk.

Dr. Phil, your show has hit an all-time low here. The segment on the woman getting scammed by a man was what? A tidbit to appease your female audience into thinking you are actually trying to help them? The quality of your show has really taken a turn for the worse lately. I can’t believe you sat there in front of your wife and didn’t decry these assholes for what they were to their faces. You also gave them a boatload of free advertising.

Dr. Phil, I have seen you tell it like it is to so many people, and I’d like to ask you, why didn’t you do it to these guys? You know what NLP is, you know that trust is an important part of establishing relationships, and I’d like to know why on God’s green Earth you didn’t tell women how to counteract things like NLP and hypnotic seduction. Shame on you, Dr. Phil, for not delving into the reality of this subject further. I challenge you to do a real show instead of a show that jokes about this stuff, and bring on some experts who can tell guys some real confidence-boosting methods instead of teaching them to manipulate and demean women.

Source: By Marie's Maine Weblog